I’ve been hearing my older girlfriends say that everything becomes weird once you turn 25. Some of them say that you start experiencing changes in your body and mindset – suddenly a lot of my friends are complaining about back pain, a slower metabolism, not being able to establish a stable relationship, and feeling trapped in their careers!

I used to just laugh it all off, thinking that those things won’t happen to me. But now that I’m 25, I’ve realized that things do get weird at this age. For instance, I’ve been seeing the following changes:

1. Sudden and drastic weight gain

Now, I’m not sure if this one is entirely because of my age or because of the toxic lifestyle in Metro Manila, but I swear, I literally felt like I gained 5 kg of body fat the moment I turned 25.

Just a short background: I’ve always been skinny. My mom’s major complaint while I was growing up was that I could eat all the food in the world and still be underweight. And even if I did gain weight, it was so easy for me to shed the unwanted pounds and keep my small stature.

But when I turned 25, my weight literally skyrocketed to an all-time high and I just kept growing larger by the day despite all my efforts to lose weight1. It’s really frustrating and it’s affecting my self-esteem. Recently, I’ve been avoiding having my photos taken, and have been turning down meetups with friends because I don’t want people to see me in this state. Body positivity? No thanks, I’m definitely not feeling positive about my own body. I look and feel terrible.

I hear so many people say that weight gain is a natural part of aging. I’ve already heard millions of reasons why. And while it must be true to a certain extent, it’s still something I refuse to accept. But at the same time, I’m worried that my body will never go back to the way it was… what then?

2. My tolerance for alcohol is lower

Drinks are always present whenever my cousins and I get together. No homecoming or reunion is complete without a bottle of liquor (or two!). There are even times when drinking is the only thing2 we would do all day, every day.

Random photo time: Me drinking on the night of my 25th birthday.

My cousins are pretty strong drinkers, so we usually drink until we all drop. I used to be able to keep up with them but recently, I’ve noticed that my tolerance just isn’t the same as before. For instance, I used to be able to drink several shots of vodka and still feel alright through the night. But now, drinking that same amount feels like I downed two whole bottles of hard liquor all by myself. The worst part of it all is that hangovers are now a regular thing, and they now last so much longer than they used to.

3. As a result of #2, drinking and nights out don’t excite me anymore

But besides not being able to tolerate alcohol in my system, in general I just feel like I have less energy to go out for dinner or a drink, especially if it’s on a weekday night. Even the thought of going to karaoke (something I LOVE doing) in the middle of the week exhausts me.

I’m also starting to dread having to hang out in a noisy bar or nightclub with younger folks… you know, the ones who go wild and puke all over the place.

4. I now find enjoyment in the strangest activities

My teenage/early 20s self would never, ever volunteer to tidy up the bedroom or do the laundry. Getting excited over an appliance store’s sale is also unheard of.

But now, I think that doing the laundry is the most relaxing activity ever. Tidying up my bedroom is my favorite thing to do during the weekends (besides sleeping, of course). I go to the mall not to check out clothes; instead, I look at home appliances, furniture, and cookware. Oh, and home TV shopping? Love it. I go crazy over the cleaning tools and kitchen knives that they’re selling.

Heck, I even find cooking enjoyable, even though my dishes are close to inedible!

5. I suddenly want to settle down and have kids

I’ve always known that I want to settle down and have kids someday, but lately I’ve been finding myself getting more concerned about it. Like, a lot of my financial and career decisions are now for planning for the future, as opposed to shorter-term purchases and luxuries.

And kids, oh kids… I used to be super awkward around them but I now love being with them. Looking at baby photos and videos instantly brightens up my day. Oh, and sometimes I just find myself researching baby supplies prices, tuition fees for the best schools in the city… and reading articles on how to raise multilingual kids XD

I still consider myself young but these changes are showing me that I *am* getting older. To be honest, many of these changes took me by surprise, so I do acknowledge that embracing all these changes is going to be difficult. These changes are part of the reason why I’m trying to be more mindful of the things I do and getting rid of the factors that don’t help or enrich me. I can’t stop myself from growing older, but that doesn’t mean I can’t adapt and strive to be a better version of myself.

All of this is pretty overwhelming though, so I’m going to deal with these changes one step at a time for now.

  1. I have a condition that doesn’t allow me to engage in just any high-intensity workout and lift heavy weights, so that’s not an option.
  2. Well, maybe not the ONLY thing, but you know what I mean.

8 thoughts on “25 is weird

  1. Susanne says:

    I don’t think you look overweight in the recent photos I’ve seen of you, but I get your point. When I was diagnosed coeliac and started eating gluten free, my body started absorbing nutrients properly for the first time ever, and eventually I started gaining weight, a bit too much. Some year ago, I was extremely uncomfortable with my body. I saw a difference with weight lifting, but my life at the time didn’t allow that I took time for that. Then last year I got very sick with another condition I have (IBD) and lost at least 5 kgs in a couple of months. I was very happy with that although the reason why I lost that weight wasn’t anything good (I’m now on decent treatment and I’m fine).
    I don’t think you necessarily have to accept gaining weight because you get older. But if you can’t work out, that’s a problem of course.
    I also absolutely love housework! After being so busy all the time and never feel I can relax, I feel that being able to wash dishes or do laundry without stress is such a treat. I’m not there at the moment – but I’ll try to get back there asap.

    1. Claudine says:

      All these sudden changes in our bodies can be a bit overwhelming, right? I’m glad you’re now well though, I hope you don’t run into any more problems!

      I’m so glad that I’m not alone when it comes to enjoying housework! A clean, organized home is a happy home!

  2. Brandi says:

    OMG i can relate to this post so much. I swear I turned 28 this year and i gained some weight, my tolerance for alcohol is lower too. I agree the excitement of drinking just isn’t there anymore when out with friends or even around family. I’d just rather have a juice or some water with a lemon and everyone looks at me crazy, like im being a party pooper lol But you still look good 😀 i don’t notice the weight gain if you did, but im sure you would know lol but still gorgeous hun. I find myself wanting a house more and more now also. and wanting to travel and get my passport.

    1. Claudine says:

      Haha, I’m finding that I’m also leaning towards those kinds of beverage choices as well! Lol! So glad that someone can relate to my situation XD

      Good luck with buying a house! I want to save up and get my own house too, but it’s way out of my reach for now!

  3. Michelle says:

    I got into the same mentality as you as I got older and I think maybe we are almost all hardwired to be like this? I know I went through a lot of this too and it is worse since I’ll be 30 this year. I never really drank due to not being interested in the drinks itself and the taste of alcohol is a acquired one, too, which I don’t have.

    I find it weird that I want kids badly, that I end up dreaming about it XD

    1. Claudine says:

      Ah, I agree with you about alcohol being an acquired taste. I didn’t really understand the appeal during my teenage years but got into it in my late teens to early 20s because I was always exposed to it. But now I just don’t feel like drinking at all!

      Haha you must really want kids that badly if you even dream about it! I hope you fulfill your dream of becoming a momma ❤️

  4. Megan says:

    You don’t look overweight at all! I think you look fine. =3 But I know you can’t do much as far as exercise, but maybe take walks?

    As far as tolerance, I used to be able to eat loads of sour candies at once, but can’t do it anymore. XD

    1. Claudine says:

      Haha our bodies really change in weird ways as we grow older, huh? Sometimes it feels strange not being able to eat as much or drink as much as we could during our younger years XD

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